15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.
16 Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own opinion.
17 Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men.
18 If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.
Empathy, a virtue Christians are called to exemplify, is being redefined in an era of increasingly polarized viewpoints and weaponized to undermine moral clarity — and the ramifications are devastating.
That’s according to Allie Beth Stuckey, author, speaker, commentator and the host of the BlazeTV podcast "Relatable" who, in an interview with The Christian Post, opened up about her latest book, Toxic Empathy: How the Left Exploits Christian Compassion. In it, she delves into the distinction between compassion grounded in biblical principles and an empathy that, she says, can cloud moral clarity.
The article goes on to say:
Her critique is aimed at what she described as a one-sided empathy that, for instance, focuses solely on the immediate fears of a woman considering abortion without weighing the life of the unborn child. Stuckey believes that such empathy, when encouraged uncritically, can motivate people to affirm actions at odds with biblical teachings.In the book, she applies this "faux" empathy to several issues. The article quotes her as saying: “Love is defined in 1 Corinthians 13 as a lot of things, but one of the things is that it never rejoices in wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Empathy really has no concern with what is actually true. It's only concerned with how someone feels, which can only get you so far..."
When it comes to upholding strict standards of justice, empathy is a liability, not an asset. It’s why in certain circumstances involving gross error and high-handed sin, God’s law forbids empathy and pity. If someone—even a close family member—enticed Israel to commit idolatry and abandon the Lord, God told them that “you shall not yield to him, or listen to him, nor shall your eye pity him, nor shall you spare him” (Deuteronomy 13:6–10). It’s why some of us have taken to warning about “toxic empathy“ and “the sin of empathy.”
Rigney led by using an example from the National Prayer Service, in which a minister, Mariann Edgar Budde chastised in the incoming Administration. He writes:
In the halting and syrupy tone of a schoolmarm, Bishop Budde concluded her sermonette by pleading with President Trump to “have mercy on the people in our country who are scared now,” singling out gay, lesbian, and transgender children who fear for their lives, as well as illegal immigrants who fear deportation.Rigney wrote: "Bishop Budde’s exhortation was a clear example of the man-eating weed of Humanistic Mercy, untethered from what is true and good. And it was enabled by the feminist denial of the complementary design and callings of men and women."
He also wrote in the piece:
Make no mistake, compassion and mercy are virtues but only when anchored in truth and tethered to justice. C.S. Lewis described the relationship well: “Mercy, detached from Justice, grows unmerciful. That is the important paradox. As there are plants which will flourish only in mountain soil, so it appears that Mercy will flower only when it grows in the crannies of the rock of Justice: transplanted to the marshlands of mere Humanitarianism, it becomes a man-eating weed, all the more dangerous because it is still called by the same name as the mountain variety.”
Those who would point out the poisonous potential of empathy were taken to task recently in an article at The Guardian, in which Stuckey and Rigney were both mentioned. So was Elon Musk. And Joe Rogan. The article said:
“The fundamental weakness of western civilization is empathy,” Musk continued to Rogan, couching his argument in the type of pseudoscientific language that’s catnip to both men’s followings on X. “The empathy exploit. They’re exploiting a bug in western civilization, which is the empathy response.”
So, Musk said it, the media seized on it. His comments here are consistent with the comments of Stuckey and Rigney. The article also stated:
“We’ve got civilizational suicidal empathy going on,” Musk said. “And it’s like, I believe in empathy. Like, I think you should care about other people, but you need to have empathy for civilization as a whole and not commit to a civilizational suicide.”
The writer of this Guardian piece, Julia Carrie Wong, continues her verbal assault on those who have challenged misplaced empathy, writing:
And, the last paragraph is quite telling: "Empathy is not a sin, a toxin, or an evolutionary dead end. It is a tool, and like all tools it can be a weapon. We are going to need it." That is exactly the type of virtue-signaling that is described with the term, "toxic empathy." The writer is setting herself up to be the one who is true, righteous, and virtuous. Is she saying that her version of "empathy" should be weaponized in the way that she would claim that view of others is?Susan Lanzoni, a historian of psychology and author of Empathy: A History, said by email that through all her research into the intellectual history of empathy, she had “never seen empathy vilified in the way it has been in these current sources”.
“The disparagement of empathy is the flip side, I believe, of a deliberate effort to set up a permission structure to dehumanize others, and to narrow the definition of who should be included in a democratic state, or in a Christian community,” she said. “To me, this disparagement marks a step in the destruction of our multicultural democracy, and provides a path from the verbal dehumanization of others to open discrimination and maltreatment.”
Indeed, the rightwing critique of empathy is not an attempt to find a better way to achieve altruistic ends; it’s an excuse to turn away from altruism entirely. We are witnessing the construction of the ideological architecture to excuse violence and suffering on a mass scale. While the religious right attends to a moral justification, the secular right is hard at work on a pseudoscientific one.
In a WORLD Magazine interview, Stuckey said:
... toxic empathy is the use of empathy as a kind of a mallet of manipulation, so a tool by which those in power in media exploit and extort people into taking on a particular position by saying, in order to be a good person, in order to be a compassionate and kind person, this is the stance that you must take."
She added:
... it is actually the love of Christ that compels us to be compassionate and other-centered and loving. And so I think really the emphasis that our culture puts on empathy in general is kind of just like misplaced and misguided. But in itself, it is really neither bad nor good. Because empathy can also—if I put myself in the shoes of someone else, and I am so staunchly in their feelings, and I am exclusively blinded to everyone else's perspective because I only feel what that person feels, well, then I can't make very good decisions. Because if I only feel what the media's designated victim feels, well, then I'm not paying attention to the rights and the needs of the well-being of other people.
The love of Christ is never manipulative. We view all people through the lens of love, which means that we are called to put the needs of others above our own, even though we may disagree with that person. We are always called to see that person as someone with value, someone who is a creation of God.
But, in an effort not to "offend," we have adopted words and phrases that are more "sensitive," more empathetic, if you will. Even, Mother's Day has been turned into a politically-correct circus, in which moms become "birthing people." And, a proposal by the governor of Wisconsin said that mothers-to-be by virtue of artificial insemination are "persons inseminated," as Madeline Fry Schultz of the Washington Examiner pointed out in a piece published at the Independent Women's Forum website.
So, we have to dispense with virtue-signaling to make people think that we are being compassionate or empathetic. We can rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep in a genuine manner. But, if those are not empowered by the Holy Spirit, with the intent of sharing the love of Christ, then these are counterfeit and poisonous pursuits.